Relationships have a way of gathering moss and reach a point of stasis with time. Even the most resilient and durable of affairs can come to a standstill over time. So there might be occasions when your long-standing association with your girlfriend will go through a tempestuous phase and you’ll simply be out of your depths to keep it afloat.
A healthy and beautiful relationship is very much like a living organism. You’d have to keep nurturing it and tending it to keep it alive and kicking. When your relationship with your partner was in a stage of infancy, your head was almost always brimming with ideas on how to keep your girlfriend happy and keep the union well oiled. However, as the bond between you and your girlfriend grows stronger, you start feeling complacent about your relationship.
Monotony starts to set in as you strongly feel that you have nothing more to give to the association. You feel as if you have given everything to the relationship and despite racking your brains, you time and again fail to come up with ways to reinvigorate your lacklustre affair. Your girlfriend has of late started complaining that you don’t pay attention to her or love her in the same way as you used to once. In a similar vein, you too have strong reasons to grumble that you’re not as much cared for by your girlfriend as you were once. Nevertheless, there are in fact, many ways to give your relationship new life and break the monotony which kicks in as your association grows older and matures.
1. Leaving for a Vacation
Though it may sound a little out of date, a getaway to an unusual destination can work wonders to bring the romance back in your monotonous and overstrained relationship. If you cannot recall the last time you took a pleasure trip, then making plans for a weekend vacation will bring the memories of your past holidays flooding back. Taking an impromptu break will go a long way in reigniting the spark in your relationship.
2. Do Something Different
If you’re in the habit of following the usual pattern of entertainment or amusement every weekend, like having dinner in your neighbourhood, then do something different next weekend. You have always focused on catching up with the latest movie releases or buying tickets for your favourite music shows and concerts. Why not visit the botanical garden or take a long stroll in the amusement park with your partner this Sunday? Not only will your lungs get a fresh supply of oxygen but your sagging relationship will get a shot in the arm as well.
3. Leaf Through the Photo Albums
A picture speaks better than a thousand words, always. You two have spent some of the most memorable times together and surely must not have missed out on freezing those moments with a camera. The photo albums that serve as veritable archives of your bygone days spent in whirlwind romance might be gathering dust in your cupboard. Take them out and dust them properly.
Thereafter take your time in leafing through the pages and reminding each other of the priceless moments spent in unison. Flipping through the pages of the photo albums will help you to realize how times have indeed changed since the day you first met each other. Taking stock of the things that you missed doing together and then planning to carry out the same will undoubtedly give a boost to your association.
4. Gift Your Partner Something Unique and Memorable
You’ve often seen your partner’s eyes glowing up when passing through a footwear or apparel outlet. You’ve oftentimes caught your partner looking at you expectantly whenever you passed a jewellery shop. However, you never seriously considered buying that expensive item of jewellery or footwear as you thought that it’d be an unnecessary drain on your expenses.
Nevertheless, your relationship has reached that stage of stability and maturity where monetary compulsions or issues should not always set the tone in your association. So why not catch your partner by surprise by gifting her something she always longed to have? Buying a unique present for your partner will evidently show that you still care a lot about her and will further buttress her love for you.
5. Compliment Your Partner more Often
It is not unusual to take your partner for granted once the relationship becomes durable and you’re successful in winning her trust. At the outset, you tend to be very effusive and go overboard in praising your partner’s qualities or virtues. But as you grow used to the association, smugness sets in eventually.
You often forget to compliment your partner when she rustles up a delicious meal for you or helps you out with your office work. Being indifferent to your companion and not appreciating her care or concern for you might be damaging as far as your relationship is concerned. Pay a compliment to your partner more often and cheer her up with a quip or a funny comment. Remember that sometimes it is the apparently small things in a relationship that matter in a big way.