Does your child always have confusion when given choices like‘yellow or green? Ice-cream or chocolate? Sports or Cartoon channel?’ If yes,you need to teach your child to make good choices and also train him/her to be sure in making a decision.
As pediatricians say, “Owing to lack of experience, it’s usual for a kid of 5-6-years old to get confused over some decisions, like what they like or dislike (e.g. food variety they like or don’t like). They give extra stress to select a pair of shoes or a video game. Until a kid starts schooling, he/she needs not take any decision, as parents were there to take most of the decisions. Yet, when his/her world spreads out, he/she starts getting confused over decision making.”
Your child becomes more self-sufficient and self-assured, if you teach him/her to make his/her own choices. However, don’t expect too much from the little kid or some overnight magic to turn him/her into a decision-maker the next morning. There’s a lot that you can do to aid him/her to make good decisions. As adults, we too have had many good and bad experiences regarding our choices. Looking back, you’ll know that there had been some mistakes in our earlier choices that made us judicious in making choices. No doubt, we all want to help our kids in making good choices.
Here are some tips to teach your kids how to make correct decisions.
Ask Him/Her, As If He/She Is A Grown Up
Ask your child, which dress would suit you perfectly for the party or who should be on the guests’ list on Christmas party. When the kid gives an opinion about the asked question, explain the result of every choice he/she makes. Then ask him/her to evaluate the opinion with the other. This will surely help him to reach the decision.e.g., if you’re asking the kid about the probable menu for the dinner, you can talk about the proteins and vitamins of the selected food varieties, what are the favorites of the other family members and which food item would be loved by everyone? This discussion will help your child to see how you take some concrete decision. This ultimately will lead him/her to observe the rules to make good choices of his/her own.
Pick Any One From These Three
Give your kid a list of restaurants and tell him/her to select one from the first three, for the weekend dinner. Remember the golden rule, ‘we get confused if too many options are given, as it’sour natural tendency to demand too many things.’So, ask your kid to make choices from a short-listed number. Here, he might need some experience to take good decision. Ask him to practice a lot.
Form A Judgment
As making a choice is a difficult task for your kid, he/she may stop working trying to decide something. Here, you must run to his/her help.Teach him/her how to come to some decision gradually. Also clarify him/her the importance of making small choices, e.g. what shirt to wear for the outing. Teach him the difference between quick decisions, medium level decisions (e.g. which gift suits grandpa’s necessity), and important choices (like choosing a music instrument to learn). Afterward, the next time he/she has confusion about ordering ice cream at a restaurant, you can take him/her back to recall the aforesaid difference and the method to select the correct one.
Ask The Kid To Use His/Her Sense
Children delay the progression of thinking by asking themselves questions orin making comparisons.This problem can be solved by asking him/her to imagine different situations, wherein good choices are required. For instance, ask him/her what he/she would do if he/she sees two of her favorite books in the library that he/she has been searching for many days.This works as a motivator to connect his/her sense of critical-thinking and shapes his/her choice-making skill.
Let Him/Her Face The Consequences
If the kid is adamant to carry his tiny toy to school, you are sure that he/she could misplace it. Yet, let him/her carry it to school. Remind yourself that unless the matter revolves around your kid’s healthiness or security, it’s also important for him/her to make some shocking choices too. The experience teaches them a lot. Therefore, the next time he/she will surely think about the bad decision in the past. When your kid loses the toyin the school, the next time he/she won’t argue to take some other toy there.
Instinctively we all have conscience that helps us to know the difference between right and wrong. It’s an easy and great natural arrangement. But a kid needs to be taught about it, which makes him/her aware whether it is right or wrong that he is about to do. It is helpful for him/her and you too, if you teach your child about this integral supervising system.
Small Things Are Important
You can teach your child about a parameter that tells about the success or failure of his/her choice making. Tell the kind that if he/she has comfortable feeling after the choice making, choice is right. Alternatively if he/she senses uneasiness, choice is wrong. This factor can teach him/her that a right choice connects with the feeling of comfort. Admire his/her right choice.
Making A Mistake Opens a Door Of New Opportunity
As we too had some blunders in our lives, little kids unavoidably will make some mistakes as well. When he/she makes a mistake, ask a few questions kindly to judge what the kid had thought prior to making a certain choice. Then with some cues about selecting right and avoiding wrong, you can show him/her how to make good decisions in the future. Don’t be angry with him/her for the mistake. Thus, this would be a lesson for the kid, ‘how to apply control through choice making’. Thus he/she stops considering himself/herself at fault for the mistake.