Has your sex life been nonexistent for some time? Or is it at the peak of being uninteresting? Don’t worry. A lot of couples go through a dry patch (literally) in their love lives. You just need to make a conscious effort to spice things up and you could be rocking each other’s world once again.
Here, I am going to be talking about how you can talk dirty to guy over text. If you are in a long distance relationship or you want to excite your guy for the pleasures to come, you can send dirty texts to them, get them excited and have an amazing time in the sack. All you need to do is use your imagination and push a few buttons on your cell phone. The idea with sending dirty texts is to make use of your vivid imagination. If you are able to create a dirty and clear image of your actions in the minds of your lover, you are a successful ‘dirty texter’! What you are looking to achieve is being able to make your guy feel that he has had the dirty experience with you even if he is far away. One of the basic mistakes made by girls while dirty texting is that they make their text ‘vulgar’, without the buildup. You need to build up anticipation before getting downright to the dirty words! Be a tease, say things that you are feeling, make your guy feel that he is in the action. This can be referred to as textual foreplay.
How to have a sexual conversation over text messages?
Here is how:
Begin by saying something sexy but not downright direct. You can say “I am thinking about you and in a very dirty way” This will get your guy’s pulse racing. Then you can build up some further anticipation by saying things like “you know if we were together I would__”. Use your imagination to fill in the blanks. You know what your guy likes best so you can go ahead and write down what you think you will do to him. The idea here is to establish a conversation where you are able to sense your guy’s anticipation and interest. Now what you should do is try to take control and describe your partner’s actions and experience as well. One of the most basic but glaring dirty texting mistakes is the fact that girls end up dictating their own fantasies leaving their guy out of the overall experience. Remember, sexually you can only enjoy something if the participation is two sided.
Here is an example
You: “I am thinking about you and in a very dirty way”
Wait for response
“I am thinking of you getting out of the shower, water dripping off you big chest and a towel wrapper around your waist”, “I just want to pull you into bed”
As per your guy’s response, narrate exactly what you feel like doing to him and how you think he is going to respond. Make it detailed and as graphic as possible. End the conversation with “I can’t wait for tonight” and prepare for an amazing time in the sack.
Here are examples of some quick dirty texts for you. You can use them when you need to quickly build some anticipation in your guy’s mind. Let’s say for example that the both of you are on your way home, how can you quickly turn your guy on without actually being there.
- “You have no idea how much you turn me on. Just the smell of you makes my whole body shake.”
- “Try not to think about___” Say something he loves to do in bed
- “I can’t stop thinking of last night” or “let’s have as much fun as last night, tonight”
- “Once you get home do_____” instruct them as to what you want them to do.
Some other, more detailed examples are:
- You know what I think of when I touch myself?
- I am touching myself thinking of you
- Come home fast, I can’t wait to pleasure you
‘When we are together texts’– these work best to build up anticipation when you are going to be with your guy soon.
- When we are together, I want you to kiss me all over my body
- When we are together, I want you to lick every inch of me
- When we are together, I want you to use me all night
- When we are together, I want you to touch yourself and let me watch
- When we are together, I want you to drive me crazy
- When we are together, I want you to show me who is the boss
- When we are together, I want you to do whatever you want with me
Remember, the idea is to have maximum fun. Dirty texting is the easiest and most fun way to add some spice to your sex lives. The funny thing is that most women simply do not try and heat things up by sending their man dirty and naughty text messages. Try sending your guy a text while he is at work to get him excited to see you and tell him exactly what you want to do to him. You can also be as descriptive as possible to make your guy’s head spin and beg you to say more and more. Guys love dirty talk and your man will love the fact that you have started it! So whether you’re communicating with text on your phone or private chatting online, there really is no better place to learn how to talk dirty without the fear of embarrassment from either side. As you’re not face-to-face with your lover, there is plenty of room to get their imagination running wild. Try to not be too blunt and descriptive with your texts. Try to add a little mystery to each of them. Let them get thinking dirty thoughts for themselves. It really does work wonders. You will surely notice the sparks a dirty chat adds to your bedroom live. So go ahead girls be bold, ask for what you want from your guy, and spell it out, literally!