How to Deal With a Distrusting Boss

All relationships are based on trust. Faith and mutual co-operation are the cornerstones of any liaison irrespective of the nature or kind. So it follows that your fiduciary relationship with your office boss should be above board.

An organization’s overall productivity both in the short and long run will be adversely affected if employees cannot trust their employer and vice versa. If there doesn’t exist a minimum level of trust between the chief or employer and his employees, the future of the entity or business will be at stake.

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Many people face a situation where they love their jobs intensely but don’t seem to get on well with their bosses. Inspite of their unwillingness, they’re compelled to carry on in their present positions primarily because of two reasons.

Firstly, finding a new job is not easy, particularly if you’re highly experienced, and looking for a position, that is similar to your current one. And more importantly, you never know if your prospective boss will be to your liking. He could turn out to be worse than your present head honcho.

So, sooner or later, you’ll be forced to confront the question:-  ‘How to Deal with a Distrusting Boss?’ You might be constantly haunted by the feeling that you’re stuck with a job that you cannot give up easily.

You’re just fed up of having to put up with embarrassing situations day in and day out but you just don’t seem to find a way out of this morass. But contrary to what you might think, there are some convenient and opportune strategies you can take to tackle the problem head on.

These approaches will not only help you to mend fences with your boss but also will be instrumental in improving your overall job situation. All you’d need to do to make these tactics work is to cultivate patience, be sagacious and hone your planning skills.

1. Always Be Ready

You should not give any opportunity to your boss to complain about any aspect of your work under any circumstance. You should keep him updated about all your departmental activities on a day-to-day basis. And to keep your boss posted, it helps if you prepare a daily report of your work and send a memo email before you leave for the day.

Maintain a distinct dossier for separate areas of your and your department’s work. If you keep your boss wired about your departmental progress, he’ll be able to know exactly where you and your section stand. This’ll ultimately help him to present the organization in a good light during annual board meetings or when placing tenders for projects and assignments.

2. Make Your Boss’s Day

Remember that your boss is as human as you’re. Don’t think of him as a superman and have unrealistic expectations from him. Help him as much as you can by not only organizing and scheduling your work areas but also seeing to it that he is able to cope with his agenda.

You should bear in mind that he has to supervise and oversee the functioning of many departments apart from yours. He might be very stressed out at the end of the day. Warm up to him by making him a piping hot cup of tea or coffee. Alternatively, make his day by properly planning his daily work program and personally attending to problematic customers and nerve-racking meetings.

3. Own up to Faults

To err is human. So, it is quite possible that in the course of your day-to-day work, you’ll make mistakes and stumble across roadblocks. You’ll know instinctively when you’re at fault. To avoid unwarranted friction with your boss, own up to your faults. Don’t let the seeds of distrust grow by covering up your shortcomings or drawbacks. Admitting readily to your mistakes will give you the leeway and the space to discuss the problem areas with your boss later on. Be humble in your discussions but don’t adopt an over-apologetic tone either.

4. Don’t Take Everything Lying Down

Admitting to mistakes should not amount to making you a scapegoat everytime there is a setback that leads to a ruckus. Don’t let your boss mistreat you or malign you by allowing him to behave in a manner that is discriminatory and unbecoming of his stature.

Tell him, in no uncertain terms, that being under stress does not give him the right to treat you shabbily. Send clear signals that you won’t take his mistreatment lying down. Consider consulting an attorney, if verbal warnings fail. You can also mull over complaining to your boss’s supervisor. Know your rights as an employee when dealing with a distrusting boss and don’t allow yourself to be taken for granted.

5. Explore The Situation

If it’s in the skin of your boss to be suspicious, then he/she is likely to distrust almost all your office colleagues. But if you were the only one facing such a situation, then you’d need to explore as to why you’re stuck, in the first place. Just as two individuals would be invariably needed to build a relationship of trust, one cannot be unreliable by himself or herself. Somebody has to be at the other end of the bridge as the recipient of that mistrust. And if you find yourself at the receiving end, then you should own up to your responsibilities and find ways to set your records straight before it is too late.

6. Exercise Self-Restraint

It really does not help if you cannot exercise a degree of self-restraint when a pressure cooker situation builds up. And especially if your boss happens to be a hot-tempered person, then you can aggravate matters by confronting the situation on an equal footing. You can always disregard or ignore his getting flared up once in a while but you’d need to sound him out if he gets abusive. You can always remind your boss that both of you’ll be able to handle the issue at hand in a more effective manner if he cools down.

Above all feel confident about your abilities and yourself. If your boss distrusts and disregards your accomplishments, and the contributions you have made to his organization, then you should not forget to make it clear to him that you can always get a more respectable job with a higher pay with your qualifications and experience.

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